Saturday, April 21, 2012

Don't Wait to Get All the Answers

The Questions were non-stop:
"Where is Qatar?""The Middle East."
"It's dangerous.  Why are you going there?"
 " Because I haven't been."
 "How long will you stay?  "Don't know."
  Where will you stay?"  Same answer.
  "What will you do there?"  "It's to be discovered."
 "Why aren't you settling down?"  "Why should I start now?"

The questions  started back in November last year.  That's when I found out my dear friend, Renee Lewis was working as a journalist for Al Jazeera in Doha, Qatar.  I did two things right away; (a) I checked Google to find out where Qatar  was, and (b) Asked Renee if there was a little job there she could find for me to do.  She got on it right away, starting by helping me to update my ancient resume.  Surprisingly her manager was interested in having me come  However, it was more complicated for me  and  the on-and-off nature of the decision-making left all my friends and family  in suspense.

  Inspite of this unknown, I went ahead with making plans; loose plans.  Very loose plans that started with renting my house  for the next year. I hadn't planned on renting my house.  The idea  was  totally unexpected, unplanned,  and came  from someone I never suspected  was interested in living in it. But when the proposal was presented to me,  I thought  it over for 5 seconds and agreed.  However, the house  had to be unfurnished.  Hadn't planned for that.    Unfurnishing it was a ghastly job, only  made possible with the help of dear friends.    While trying to unload all my belongings,  I also had to  think about packing for a Muslim country in hot weather (it turned out to be very cold), and  arranging  accommodations in Doha.  I decided on couch-surfing which required some research and computer time.  I  had to find a temporary place to stay in San Miguel until the time I would actually leave.   Meanwhile I spent   many hours searching for a suitable flight, not knowing how long I would stay away. .  Complicating things more,  I  had to time my departure with other events that needed attention.  At the same time, Renee would email me periodically, telling me of the progress or lack of it in getting me something to do at Al Jazeera. Sometimes it  looked like I had a job, sometimes not. But I knew I was going  to Doha no matter what.  While the answers to so many questions mattered to others, the answers didn't matter to me.  I knew that however things rolled out, it would be a renewing, exciting adventure. Eventually,  I would get what I wanted.

After two months of preparation with many unknowns still hanging, a big, wonderful going-away party,  and only  two weeks after my 79th birthday,   I took a crowed, scruffy-looking  overnight bus from San Miguel de Allende, Mexico to Houston, Texas.  I was the only non-Mexican on the bus and also the oldest.   With a few hours of sleep and  24 hours later,  my dear friend, Dawn McCarty  met me at the Houston bus station  and took me to the International Hostel; a lovely old mansion  where I had my own room and attached bath with free breakfast in the morning.   I spent the night there and the next evening Dawn took me   to the airport for my  flight to Doha.  Qatar Airways made sure the two oil capitols were directly, non-stop connected..

After a very comfortable 13 hour   flight, we arrived in Doha.    Tracy, my couch-surfing hostess was at the airport to meet me.  She drove me to her beautiful, centrally located apartment where I again had my own bedroom and bath.....free.  The next day Renee picked me up and took me directly to Al Jazeera, a thrilling experience.  No, I had no job  but it didn't matter.  Renee made sure I saw what I needed to see there and met whom I need to meet.  Later, with time off, she took me to see many other places in the city and to learn things about it I'd never have known without her.  Soon,  I came to realize that Doha was the strangest place I've ever visited..

Doha, in the midst of the desert, quiet, peaceful, though directly across from Iran, is super modern,  feeling somewhat like a more up-to-date Los Angeles . The sand is covered with asphalt freeways, parking lots, shopping malls and   non-stop construction  of very beautiful, most  modern  high rise buildings I've seen anywhere.  .  The architecture is stunning and represents the signature designs of the most famous architects in  the world. Surprisingly, most  buildings are empty.  And so were the streets, except for the third-world construction workers whom I learned worked 10, 12, 16-hour days for shockingly little pay.  Rarely was a white-robed Qatari man or a black-robed Qatari woman  seen in the streets.  They are not the Cat drivers, welders,  waiters, taxi or bus drivers, bank tellers, or  shop keepers.

  While many  are academicians, artists, musicians, lawyers, doctors, scientists, politicians,  they  are also  shoppers.   Unless you are lucky enough to know them personally,    to see Qatari men and women, you must go to any of the many upscale shopping malls in the evening.  There you will see men, their heads carefully draped  traditional style,  wearing   their  long  whiter-than-white clothing.    Clusters of  Qatari women will be seen  covered from head to toe in black, sometimes faces covered with a thick black veil,  or completely uncovered. Sometimes only their  eyes  are exposed which somehow seem to reveal much more about them than was intended.   But always could be heard their spike heeled shoes click clacking on the floor as they shop in trendy shops where cute little short dresses were on sale, or low cut blouses in bright colors, along with expensive shoes and everything from French, Italian, Spanish, and American globalized makers of fashion.

In addition to the grand, ostentatious shopping malls,  Renee took me to the  beautiful Islamic Art Museum, the Cultural Center, an abandoned fishing village in the desert, elegant hotels,  a variety of ethnic restaurants, and  a very "hot"  upscale  roof top bar....a bit surprising in this Muslim country. But in addition to all these places that I found so  intriguing were  the people I met.  One particularly interesting woman was Imam, a  vivacious, beautiful Palestinian American archaeologist working on a site outside of Doha.  She told me about her work revealing the little-known life of the pearl divers  that once abounded  there...before oil was discovered and changed everything.   I was also enriched by meeting another of my couch-surfing hosts, Mohammed, an Egyptian who had a part in the Arab Spring at Tahir Square.  His stories were riveting. My world had expanded.

Expanding my world were also  the revelations about the darker side of Doha; the stories of wealthy Qatari owners of villas built strictly for their underground parties.  Their parties, I was told, consisted of non-stop drugs and alcohol and  third-world female prostitutes.  This was rather surprising given the  strict Muslim exterior.

Of course, there is also the large, international university complex consisting of some of the most prestigious American universities where local students and those from the region come to study.  There are the well-known Doha Debates of high acclaim, and the Doha  venue for an all-women's international tennis match.  All are anticipating  the Olympics slated to be held there in 1220.

The bottom line is that  my friend's questions were answered this way:  when making plans for travelling and  when actually doing it,  much has to be unknown, even if you think you've planned for everything.  But there will always be an answer to your questions, one way or another, and they will all be OK....depending on your attitude.  Best to make it a positive one.  If you do, all will be as it should be.

Next time I'll tell you why I left Doha  after two weeks  and flew off to a very different destination....with more unknowns.  And more adventure.

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